You hear it all the time: “Follow your dreams!” “Do what you love!”. It is such an empty statement. Following your dreams isn’t enough, and if that is all you are doing then you will most likely never achieve them.
We will look at this saying from a comedy stand point of course, this is a blog about comedy (and photos sometimes). I see it all the time where someone wants to be a comedian, but then there are a lot of stipulations to when they want to be a comedian. They come out to an open mic once and now they plaster their social media accounts with the label: comedian. That isn’t enough if you REALLY want to be a comedian. What people learn quickly is that there are a lot of funny people at the bottom and a lot of not as funny people at the top. Comedy is not an empirical discipline where the funniest get the great stuff and the not funny remain at the bottom. That means that if you want to be a comedian, it takes more than just the thought of being a comedian, and it frustrates me when I see comedians that are “following” their dreams when instead they should be fighting for them.
Every successful comedian’s story is full of times they had to fight to keep doing what they love. They didn’t sit at home because it was cold outside. They jumped on a greyhound to get to a show. They sat around all night to get that three minutes at an open mic. They kept getting on stage and proving to management that they were good enough for more than just last minute replacement comic. They sat their asses down and wrote and wrote and wrote. Then they got lucky enough to be seen by the right person, but that also meant sleeping on couches and in their car. The thing is, when I say successful, I am not talking about just the ones you see on TV. This is the story of all the guys you see come through your town to perform on a given weekend. That is what it takes to do this.
It frustrates me when I am talking to local comedians and they will give me so many excuses to why they can’t come out. They have class. They have a job. They have a child. These are all things that I personally have had to deal with, and you have to make some sacrifices. When I was in college, I would get my class work done and then I would get my ass to the local open mic. It was harder to get work, so what I did was only take stuff where I could get back home the same day. I had a job after class as well. It usually meant being tired some nights, but I kept doing it because it was something that I truly enjoyed. When I started my kid was three, so that meant that if I could not find someone to take her I could not go, but I did sacrifice a lot of time with her to pursue comedy because I felt I could make a living at it and she would benefit. Before college, I spent a lot of time driving for hours for shit pay so I could one day be able to do the shows I want for the money I want. Not everyone has my exact situation. I’m just giving an example of some of the things you have to do. After all of this, no one knows who I am. I am not a nationally touring headliner. I don’t have TV credits. This is what I had to do to get this far. And this isn’t all of it. There was homelessness and overdue bills and all that, but it is what I loved so I fought to keep doing it. Look, if you just want to come out every once and a while and dabble in comedy, then go ahead and do that. Nothing wrong with stand up as a hobby, but I am talking about those whose dream is to do this for a living. If you are not fighting for those dreams, then you can not be shocked when they do not come true.